“In speed dating, meetings are to be arranged between men and women who have several things in common like age group, social status, educational level, and financial condition.They would sit together and talk over a cup of tea for no longer than seven minutes.” After the seven minutes are over, Rasi explained, organizers of the group date would ring a bell and a swap is to take place between tables.Older, school age children will bring home names of other children they like and don’t like. ” If you think so, go right ahead, but it’s not my scene. The bar scene in Dubai may be a great way to meet casual contacts, but few meet soul mates or good friends that way.If it’s practical (and don’t underestimate how far some children travel to attend certain schools), after-school invitations home are points of contact with the parents. I’m thinking more about groups, primarily of expats, where a common interest in some aspect of UAE life, or an interest with a UAE focus brings a diverse group of people together.Sexologist Mustafa Rasi, who works in the city of Oujda in eastern Morocco, argues that so much time is wasted in the pre-marriage stage and which involves several meetings between the man and the woman as well as between members of both families and long discussions of details.“At the end of all this, it is very likely that the marriage might not happen,” Rasi wrote in an article published in the Moroccan newspaper To avoid the negative outcome of this process whose length contributes to the surfacing of more disagreements, Rasi proposed speed dating as the most viable solution.But it was alright, I have to admit I was wasted when I went, so my first few rounds didnt go to well, but I warmed up to it a bit.Ladies, I want to help my fellow gents to hook up with some of you for a drink or two - to socialize or just to creepily stare at you during really awkward moments (like those silencer sequences during first dates), either or I like seeing people connect Sooooooooo - don't be shy ladies, I'm here!
), and found myself in the restaurant of the Hyatt Union Square.
…Or maybe you don’t want the high-roller lifestyle, but something more “normal,” even though you’re thousands of miles or kilometres away from wherever home is.
How, as an expatriate, do you forge a new network of friends and acquaintances to provide the social contacts you need to perform your work in an effective and productive way? Whatever is bugging that person, it’s not your concern. Accept whatever kindnesses and invitations are on offer, because in the coming weeks and months, you will pass through the various stages of that disconcerting feeing of alienation known as culture shock (in the case of Dubai and the UAE, you can prepare yourself in advance by reading this.) Workmates and colleagues can be very helpful in passing on all those vital tips to settling into your new home: practical stuff like “do this, but don’t do that,” “it says you need this but actually, you don’t,” and the like.
It’s a good idea, if it feels right, to be proactive and start the conversations yourself.
You never know where such small beginnings might lead, and it never hurts to be friendly.