People often have a bad opinion of pursuing friends’ exes.And there certainly are times when people who go down this path find that it really wasn’t worth it.Consider what it would feel like if the roles were reversed.Yes, you may (as many people tend to) get completely wrapped up in your own feelings and give the middle finger to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, but if one of your besties decided to start humping your ex, would you be supportive or forgiving?While most of us probably hate our best friend’s exes more than they do themselves after listening to countless stories about them playing Xbox instead of taking them out on dates or being their shoulder to cry on when they cheated, some of us may also have experienced developing a crush on a friend’s former partner. She returned from travelling to find them living together. It’s still pretty awkward when everyone thinks about it too hard.” “HELLLLLL NOOOOOOO. Let’s go with Whitney Houston, ‘It’s not right, but it’s okay’.” “Maybe you’ve got to ask your BBF if it’s okay because you’re in love and maybe they’d understand. “I wouldn’t touch any of my friends or best friends’ exes – it’s just not even in my mind to do that stuff I guess, but maybe it’s because I haven’t actually ever been into them either.” “I’ve been with a best friend’s ex, as in we slept together a couple of times. Well we asked girls and guys from MTV if they think it’s okay to date your best friend’s ex and here’s what they had to say… There are only so many suitable fish in the sea and as long as there’s no bad blood between the friend and ex, and the friend is cool with it, what’s the big deal? ” “My best friend’s older sister ended up MARRYING her ex. I will say it’s dependent on how much this person meant to the best friend. Sometimes you’ve just got to step to one side and let love do it’s thing. “So actually, I’m torn between if it’s okay or not.But every once in a while, the universe speaks to a person and lets him know that, although it seems wrong at first, there might be a bigger reason your friend dated this person in the first place – maybe it was to connect the two of you, instead.Such a situation, of course, can be tricky, and must be handled with care.
As Michele Fabrega, a love, intimacy, and sexuality coach for men, tells The Cheat Sheet to consider these factors first: If you really consider your buddy a true friend, then clearly you’ve given this much thought prior to deciding to move forward.If you can distinguish between the two and it’s nothing more than an urge for a wild boot-knocking, then stop right there because it’s definitely not worth it.For me, the whole ‘follow your heart’ or ‘the heart wants what the heart wants’ cliches should be thrown out the window here.Luckily, a woman can approach this in pretty much the same way a man does, and that’s where I can help a sister out.Just because they did it in Friends, it doesn’t mean it’s OK in real life, guys.