My experiences with canon law and teenagers have taught me a thing or two about what constitutes unhealthy teenage dating behavior, as well as what type of courtship leads to healthy marriages.
When I began dating my husband, I was still influenced by those unhealthy patterns and needed time to heal.
You can find an example of her witticisms at the beginning of the book when she says there are two types of love: ‘real love’ and ‘pizza love.’ ‘Real love’ is respecting the partner and honouring chastity, whereas ‘pizza love’ is a completely different sort of love: just like pizza, you love it as an object but once its use has disappeared – that is to say, once it has been eaten – the remains are cast away.
It is a humorous way of expressing the very real and serious difference between loving and objectifying someone – the point is clear.
So when I saw “Teenage Dating for Girls,” I thought, oh great. So that’s probably even more reason why I should have known better than to jump to any conclusions.
Another well-intentioned but confused Catholic parent telling us why it’s okay that her teenage daughter goes steady – because it’s important to show that we trust her and she knows she’s supposed to be good and we really want her to think of us more as friends than as parents and that boy is so charming and his parents are so nice and – what, you’re pregnant? I should also note that my own home is decidedly ungraced by the presence of any teenage girls, so my own opinions on this particular topic are, from a practical standpoint, entirely prospective in nature.