I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships.However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers).The English measure money with great attention to detail, and all restaurants allow for individuals to pay separately.Once, the bill was placed on our table and my date asked “cash or card?Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.
You will never, in France, find a guy you don’t know show any romantic interest in you if you have not been introduced by a mutual friend.
Well, we usually go out in groups and meet within this social group. If you are already friends with the guy, you just spend more time together, get a coffee after school or share a meal at your apartment, and flirt a little bit.
If you just met at a party, well, you kiss, and things evolve naturally.
I think Americans have a tendency to view the British as extended family members who merely speak in a different accent, underestimating how large the cultural gap between our two societies really is.
As an anglophile, I seem to have been subconsciously drawn to British men like a moth to the flames, and those experiences have taught me a lot about British culture and myself.